Bolatito Fasasi is part of a growing wave of young African creatives redefining what it means to build identity across continents. Originally from Nigeria and now based in London, Bolatito has carved out a digital presence that blends lifestyle, fashion, and personal growth, while staying rooted in cultural pride.
Known online as @tito_lifestyle, she has built a community drawn to her intentional approach to style and self-development. Bolatito shared with Women of Grass-Fields how Nigeria shaped her confidence, how London refined her independence, and how she channels self-belief into her lifestyle, fashion choices, and daily practices of peace.
Tell us who you are, beyond your job title?
I’m an immigrant in my 20s who is learning to build a peaceful and happy life for myself. Moving to a new country has helped me grow, become stronger, and understand who I really am. I care a lot about self-care. To me, self-care means taking care of my mind, protecting my peace, and allowing myself to rest and grow.
I love traveling and sightseeing because I enjoy seeing new places and experiencing new things. But I also love quiet days at home, relaxing and enjoying simple moments. I’m someone who is choosing peace, growth, and a soft life. Every day, I’m becoming a better version of myself.
Which African country are you from? and where are you currently based?
I’m originally from Nigeria, and I’m currently based in London, United Kingdom.
Moving from Nigeria to London is a major shift. How did that transition shape your style?
One part of being Nigerian that shaped my style the most is our strong belief in ourselves. In Nigeria, we grow up hearing “Naija no dey carry last,” which means we don’t see ourselves as people who fall behind. It teaches you to be confident, to show up fully, and to believe that nothing is impossible.
That mindset influenced how I present myself. I like to look put-together, confident, and intentional, because it reflects how I feel inside. It’s not just about clothes, it’s about carrying yourself with self-belief and pride. Being Nigerian taught me to be bold, to believe in my growth, and to never limit myself and that confidence is a big part of my personal style.
When do you feel most connected to your culture?
I feel most connected to my culture in the little everyday moments. When I hear Nigerian music or cook Nigerian food, it brings a sense of comfort and reminds me of home.
I also feel connected when I speak with my friends and family. Those moments make me feel closer to home and my culture.
Have you ever felt like you had to tone yourself down?
No, I’ve never felt like I need to tone myself down. I’m happy and proud of who I’ve become. My story is my inspiration and thinking about how far I’ve come fills me with pride. I’ve put in the work to get here, and I’m confident in myself and my journey.
What does success mean to you now versus five years ago?
Success to me now is having the freedom to be in control of my time and the ability to work from anywhere. It’s about living life on my terms and creating a balance that brings me peace and fulfillment.
Five years ago, success for me was simpler, it was financial stability and being able to provide for everyday needs without stress.
What are you building that people can’t see yet?
If I talk about it now, then people will know, right? 😅 Everything will unfold in its own time.
What advice would you give a young Black African girl who feels behind?
Nothing is unachievable, so never accept failure as the final answer. Keep pushing, keep trying, and trust in your journey. Your time will come.
Complete this sentence: Black women deserve ______.
a life full of ease, peace, and the kind of softness that nourishes the soul.
Was there a season where you doubted yourself? What changed?
I’m a strong believer that you can always reinvent yourself. I’ve never really doubted myself. When I fall, I pick myself up and keep going. I’ve always had faith in myself and trust that my journey is guided by God.
What boundary improved your life the most?
The boundary that improved my life the most is saying no and letting go of people-pleasing. Learning to put myself first and protect my peace has made me stronger, more confident, and happier.
What are you no longer apologising for?
I’m no longer apologising for putting myself first or for anything that would inconvenience me just to please someone else. My peace and well-being come first, and I’ve learned that it’s okay to honour that.
When did you realise you didn’t have to shrink?
I realised I didn’t have to shrink when I embraced my journey as an immigrant. My accent doesn’t define me, and neither does my background. What matters is my growth, my voice, and the person I’m becoming.
How do you define abundance?
I define abundance as having peace, joy, and freedom in life. It’s not just about money or things, it’s about feeling fulfilled, being surrounded by love, and having the time and space to grow and take care of yourself.
